These are questions received from an individual, responded to by Janu and the Brotherhood of Light, and presented here to provide a more personal connection to these journeys. The response given is directed to that particular individual, and is presented for research purposes only.
Q: Have I met my best mate yet, best for both of us and for our service to the planet? How could ** and I best be connected? Just friends, or a committed husband/wife relationship. I am 23 years older and we are very close but also some conflicts.
JANU: As we examine the relationships issue with you, please seek to resolve within yourself: intimate relationship with another as an integrated component in the structure of your life, how best does this kind of relationship facilitate your hopes and dreams for life fulfillment? And do these dreams include the hopes and dreams of another? This one of whom you speak in this first part of your question has a channel or course or path in his life stream that is active yet turbulent, not mastered yet by him, making it difficult for him to answer the question we posed to you. We would see much discussion between you, in an open and honest way, of life path dreams and commitments and see if each other’s interests the other, you see.
Even when two seemingly share the same direction of life interest or vision, there are differences significant enough to create conflicts where the understanding and commitment to caring for another’s dream or vision is not strong in the relationship, you see. Even without clear vision on both parties’ part, clear understanding and commitment to these dynamics of relationship will carry you through, so to speak. We see no direct conflicts at this time, but the need for good communication. Test these dynamics before commitments are made of a lifelong intimate relationship. Your service to each other and the world will take care of itself when the foundation is laid that can be built upon. For your service and services can adapt according to your foundation, as the needs for service are varied indeed and developing.
Q: Any enlightenment on my connection with ***, very close friend over the phone (spiritual friend and co-worker)? What can I do to better prepare myself for a long term relationship that is balanced on all levels (and inspiring and creative)?
JANU: Yes, we have this one of whom you speak, ***. What we see here is one who comes to his ownership, to his presence in the flow of life, through self aggrandizement at times. Seeing opportunities for self fulfillment rather than the fulfillment of the opportunity, you see, including the opportunities of others. What we would suggest here, dear one, is the benefit of the long distance connection. There will be times when you will be sorely pressed to hold your course of focus on enriching life rather than being enriched in this relationship, and in so doing provide opportunity for him to understand this different perspective and its benefit to the rest of life.
As to your preparation for a balanced, creative life and development of your preparation for long term relationship, we would see it in this manner. Cohabitate with yourself in the sense of good communication, support and comfort, clear understanding, and, yes, even love for yourself within your own heart of your true being. Many look for these things through the presence of another in their life. The best relationship, dear one, is when another encourages you to find these things within yourself, and you the same for them. Connect with and understand these strengths in the nature of your being and this prepares you for encouraging this in another who would share your life path, and you theirs.
As this process begins, life will find another so prepared and you will recognize the crossing of your paths because of this preparation, you see. Know that this is so and proceed in that way. You will not have to endlessly analyze the merits of another when this crossing takes place. You will feel the connection with the strengths of the true being by which you have formed your identity, you see. Have faith in the power of life to fulfill.
May 26, 1997 Copyright © 2016 by Joshua Ross
For other questions from this individual see Feb. 16th posting and Miscellaneous attunement.
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